I am a divorce lawyer, and I have often found myself in the position of a woman who is on the verge of divorce who then has to deal with the legal side of the divorce. I have found myself in that position most recently when I had to decide if I should represent a woman who wished to end her marriage and move out of the country. I chose to represent her, and I was happy to have the help of those who had been in the legal arena.
The decision to represent a client in a divorce case is always the hardest one to make. What to do? What to ask? What to say? What to tell your client when you know you don’t really know what your client is going through.
I found myself doing a lot of reading and research to figure out the best way to approach the conversation with my client. It was not particularly difficult because I was not a divorce lawyer by trade. I was, however, a lawyer who wanted to be a lawyer, and who also needed to become a better person. From this, I found myself taking the approach that I knew a lot of people would probably see as being “extreme”.
The approach I took was to ask the client if he knew what his future would be if he married me. If he didn’t, I would tell him that he should have told me. We both should have discussed the best way to handle this.
I’m not sure if I succeeded in this approach, but I think I managed to get my client to tell me the best way to handle this situation. I’m not sure if he was just being a dick, or if I was just trying to be nice. The thing is, I have a lot of respect for him and he’s a good person. The fact that I was being a dick, and not a nice dick, is the real problem.
Being a dick is a terrible way to deal with a problem, especially if you are the other person. If you are the other party, then you have to be able to show your side of the story. If you are the one who is being a dick, then you are the one who is the problem. Which is why you always have to talk to your spouse about it.
While I do think it’s very important to talk to your husband or wife about how you are feeling, the problem comes from the fact that you are the one who has to deal with everything that has happened. No one else has to deal with any of it.
This is why you have to talk to your spouse about how you are feeling. Because by the time you are actually talking to your spouse about how you are feeling, your spouse has already had a chance to have the conversation with you. If you don’t talk to your spouse about how you are feeling about your ex, you are going to be stuck feeling guilty about it.
Just because the two of you have been together for years, doesn’t mean you can’t still have a conversation about how you are feeling. You can make sure your spouse knows how you are feeling by doing some things. For example, you can take your spouse out for lunch, or just spend some time in the same room. Even going to dinner with your spouse and your partner could be a nice way to make sure your spouse knows how you are feeling.